Love and relationships!

A few of my readers has asked me about love and relationships, I have not had luck with either one of them so I do not feel I am the person to ask.  I do know this; I have been in love twice in my life, the first one I just told last year. She was from school.  I think she was shocked! The other one had different priorities than I and I felt some days she lived in a dream world. .  I was married twice and both times ended in divorce.  To answer or speculate no I got married for the wrong reasons.  I was not in love with either one of them.  I knew after the first month my first marriage would fail.  The last one was a surprise but I am glad it did end.   I am almost 52, single and loving life.  Relationships are tough; marriage is tough, and if you have kids it gets tough, kids are pretty smart, they play one parent against the other. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose.  I have three kids and they did not take the divorce easy, it has been a rough couple of years for them, and all of us.  I told them there were always three sides to every story, mine, hers and the truth. One thing I can tell you I have learned is you cannot lose yourself!  Don’t give up on the things you like to do weather it is guitar, trains, or photography. You cannot give up things that use to be important.  I know, pick your battles to win your wars, but having a partner sometimes is tough.  You want someone who has the same interest, likes, and dislikes, women don’t try and change the man or think he will change and guys don’t do that to the women.  It is a common courtesy.  A partner will be with you when it is good and bad times.  When you’re sick and not feeling good, look your worse or don’t give a crap and the person sticks around consider yourself lucky.  I also learned to stick up for yourself and not give in every time you disagree.  It is OK to disagree.  It is also good to know you need to consider your better half as a partner not a slave.  As much as you want to go to do your thing, they do also.  Keep it simple, as relationships and love will try and turn your life around.  If it gets to complicated changes are it will be. The last thing is never think for a moment she is the only one to gain weight and age, we all do, look in the mirror, you may be surprised what you see!   Guys think with your brain and not with your thing, there is a big world out there. Until next time!